Updated: Nov 6, 2020



Giving advice can be a tricky business, especially in these times, people are becoming less and less tolerant of advice. If you want to give an advice, you will have to think time and time again before saying anything, which eventually will make you wonder if it's even worth it.


Does that mean, however, that you shouldn't try to help others?


Of course not, for you only give advice because you care and out of concern for the other. In fact, sometimes you would be doing more harm than good when you withhold your advice.


Regardless of how much negativity you might receive from the other, and how much backfire and blame you might face, if someone matters to you, you will have to advise them.


Why? Because it will devastate you when you see the person you love in pain knowing that you could have done something about it. You can advise anyone if you only practice. This is a skill that becomes better with experience and observation.


The following is my advice to you when attempting to give advice.


Timing, timing, timing! You have no idea how many times a bad timing ruined a good advice. If you don't carefully select a proper timing to give your advice, you'll end up upsetting the other and yourself.


Try to pick up a time when the other is in the mood or at least not angry or anxious, and try to talk to them in a quite place where you can't be interrupted.


Give your advice in the form of a story and try to be as indirect as possible. This method will work fantastically well if you manage to distance the other from your story (advice) so that your advice reaches their subconscious rather than their conscious minds.


The major advantage of communicating advice in the form of a story, however, is that the other doesn't feel inferior, because when you give advice you automatically assume a position of power - something that no one likes at all.


Being indirect is best when giving advice, especially with very close people.


Just remember to think very carefully when you attempt to advise someone, and have a lot of patience, and by all means, avoid giving advice when you're mad or upset.


This is it for today, take care and remember, life is beautiful if you only decide it to be so.


Ahmed



Updated: Nov 6, 2020


There is truly magic in the power of acting as if you're the person you aspire to be, or acting as if you're in possession of the thing you desire.


I know there are countless posts out there about this topic, but I'm sorry, I can't stop myself from sharing with you my thoughts on this technique, because I can tell you from experience that it is one of the most powerful tools you can use to transform your life.


Let's start by looking at what does it really mean to act as if. On a very superficial level, it means that you pretend that you are someone different that who you are now. For example, you may be someone who is genuinely afraid of the dark, and so you pretend that you are not; or you're someone who is sick, and so you act as if you're someone who is healthy and well.


I know it seems strange so far, but bear with me a little, because it's about to get really clear for you now.


Let's examine what exactly do we get by using this method. First of all, the minute you start thinking about the possibility of you being the person you desire, you will feel an immediate sense of enthusiasm and joy, it will be a temporary one, but you will be able to experience it as often as you want.


After all, why do we desire, why do we want? We're just after the feelings and sensations that these material objects seem to induce.


Second, when you act as someone, you prime yourself to be the person you want. For example, when you pretend to be brave, you will have to take brave actions, this is a part of your role, this is who you are on stage now. Strange enough, when you think in this way, things that you don't normally do, seem easier, and you end up doing them.


Finally, if you keep up the act long enough, you will notice that you are becoming the person you're pretending to be. Do you know that this really happens to actors? When an actor plays a role long enough, they can get sometimes confused between who they are and who they are pretending to be!


Start by deciding who you want to be, spend a lot of time designing the person you want to become. Imagine this person in all sorts of situations, think how they would face their problems, how would they deal with conflicts, and so on. With time and dedication to your role, your new self will infuse with your current unwanted personality and ultimately dominate it.


Sounds a bit drastic, but I give you my word, it is the key to transforming your life the fastest way possible.


This is it for today. Take care and remember, you are one of a kind, you are extraordinary, and you are blessed with life. Live, love, and prosper, because this is what you are here for.


Ahmed


Updated: Jul 10, 2020

You might be someone who loves to talk and express themselves, but you might notice that people are becoming less interested in what you're saying. I have had this problem and I can tell you it's truly frustrating.


But as I gained more experience in life, I learned that the less you speak the more people are going to be interested in what you have to say. Think of yourself as a merchant and your words as your goods.

If you become a merchant who opens his store once a week and only offers carefully selected items, everyone is going to line up in front of your door, curious and hyped up for what you’re offering.

Sounds strange but believe me it works!


Surround yourself with a sense of mystery, don't reveal everything about yourself, because if you do, you won’t allow space for the imagination of your listener. Give people space to think about you and wonder about the things you didn’t say.


Cultures from all over the world in some way or another glorify silence and criticize excessive talk, because when you embrace silence and restrict your tongue, you allow yourself time to think, which automatically increases the quality of your words and lessens your chance of saying something redundant or inappropriate.


Please practice this with reason, don’t be silent with the situation requires you to speak. You must always find an equilibrium and evaluate each situation in its own rights.


Take care for now and remember, you’re only limited by your own beliefs. Nothing is beyond you, and all is yours if you only believe.


Ahmed